I am posting this letter that I wrote to 2 friends during
the summer of 2014 without their knowledge, but I don't think they will mind...
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Dear friends,
I took your question very seriously. I wanted to share some truths with you. Ideas that I 100% believe. Even if, heaven forbid, Matthew isn't "the one" for me, these words will still ring true in my life. I am bu NO means a love guru, but I have spent 25 years on this planet & a long time trying to figure out when & how loving a man would fit into my story. Hope you find this to be encouraging.
Know that you are deeply loved by me.
Be in Love with Christ First.
Passionately. Wholeheartedly.
And let Him love you!
Spend time together.
Talk. Pray. Cry. Be all in that relationship.
I can't specifically tell you how to do this because it is
between you & Him.
Stop trying to figure out your life & be in love with Jesus.
God is love.
How will you know how to love if you have not experienced
love in its purest form?
So that Christ may
dwell in your hearts through faith; and that you, being rooted and grounded in
love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth
and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which
surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God. Ephesians
3:17-19
But grow in the grace
and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. 2 Peter 3:18
Embrace Confidence
There is a huge difference between faking
confidence & actually being confident.
Is there a time in your life when you have felt like you are
the best version of yourself? Why?
How did you become her?
Be her every day.
Guys, whether they understand it or not, know the difference
between real confidence & the mask of confidence.
REAL MEN want a REAL WOMAN.
Be the woman God created you to be.
Then you will always feel like Beyoncé, better yet, you will
always feel like {insert your name here}!
And some day, some man won't be able to help himself.
Before I formed you
in the womb I knew you, And before you were born I consecrated you. Jeremiah
1:5
Practice Selflessness
You're off to a great start by serving at YL camp this
summer.
Let’s make a plan of how you can practice putting others
first post camp.
Being in a relationship has taught me that sacrificing for
the good of the one you love is the best way to love them and 100% necessary
for the relationship to succeed.
Start doing things you'd rather not do.
((Apply this to any & all relationships, friends &
family too))
Therefore if there is
any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is
any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and compassion, make my joy
complete by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in
spirit, intent on one purpose Do nothing from selfishness or empty
conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than
yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but
also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:1-4
Experience Life on
God's Terms
Would you & I be the good friends we are today if I had
hurried my life along & pushed my way into relationships when it wasn't the
right time?
I can absolutely tell you NO.
Now that I am in a relationship, I am better aware of the
time & energy it takes to sustain one.
I've said it before & will say it again, being your YL
leader was the biggest blessing of my life!
So what should you be doing with your time?
You aren't in a relationship, so ask God how he wants to use
you right now ((always ask Him this in all life stages)).
Giving your life away is the best way to live.
Seek His purpose. Trust His
plan.
Faithful is He who
calls you. 1 Thessalonians 5:24
Do the Next Right Thing
Making the right choices is a continual process. And a
challenge.
Believe me, I know.
If you're gut is uneasy, don't do that thing!
Say no to the date if he is a questionable guy.
Stay in. Don't go to the party ((less temptations)).
Keep your clothes on.
Do the right thing, then do it again, and again.
And when you do the wrong thing, talk to God about it, tell
the guilt to get lost, then do the next right thing!
Work on doing what is right while you are single so you'll
be more prepared to do the right thing when you are taken.
He leads the humble
in justice, And He teaches the humble His way. All the paths of the LORD
are loving kindness and truth to those who keep His covenant and His
testimonies. Psalms 25:9-10