Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Wisdom of Paul, Interpreted by Tom Job, Re-interpreted by me

If I had a nickel for every time my parents told me I needed an "attitude change" while I was growing up, I could have retired by now.
They were right of course, I could be rotten.
I find myself wanting to say that to the 10 year old girl I babysit, but I don't know if that's my place or not.
If I was anything like her, Mom, Dad, I'm so sorry.

I find myself  needing an attitude tune-up in new ways as I get older.
Hopefully at 25 I am not still having the same kind of bad attitude that I did at 12, but it's come to my attention that there are new, possibly worse, ways to have a bad attitude.

Through his letter to the Philippians, Paul leaves little room for us to debate the fact that as Christians, we have no excuse to live life with anything but joy or a consistent good attitude.
Yet, I find plenty of reasons to be unhappy, anxious, worried, frustrated, annoyed, and down right pissed off!
But Paul, through the example of his own life, makes a great point.
Since Saul became Paul, since a man that made it his life mission to persecute and torture Christians became a man persecuted and tortured in the name of Christ, since God met him on the road and changed him forever, God can change, and will change, anyone who meets him in the same way.

My bad attitude says to the world, that even though I know Christ, I am no different than they are.
I complain about the weather just as much, if not more, than anyone else.
I am just as unsatisfied with the body that God gave me.
I am just as easily frustrated when things don't go my way or when people don't act as I want them to.
My attitude should be dependent on what I know to be true instead of my current circumstances or what my feelings lead me to believe is true.
There should be no complaining, no anxiety, no worry, no fear, no anger, no pouting.
(and yes that state of being is attainable)

I think it was Priscilla Shrier that said, "Emotions are based on past experiences and personal tendencies".
And Tom Job who said, "Feelings come from thoughts, thoughts come from what I know, and what I know is that God loves me...That's all I need to know to be fine"
But I don't always act like I believe that He loves me.
As a human, as a fallen person, my heart sick with the disease of sin, I still usually base my actions off what I feel.
But feelings lie

When I let my personal tendencies & my past experiences dictate my emotions and therefore my attitude, I am not reflecting my Savior who loves me!
I am projecting to the world that even though I claim Him (more importantly, even though He claimed me) nothing has changed.
It says to the non believer:
He in fact has not overcome Satan.
He is not great enough to overcome my self. 
And then whoever was watching me, looking for answers, ultimately looking for Christ, moves on.
Because obviously, Christ is not the answer after all.

But He is.

And I know that.
I believe that with all my heart. 
How could I live my life in this way?
Stripping Him of his authority, and might, and power.
Living as though He has not provided me with joy everlasting, peace that passes all understanding, purpose in this life, and love unending.
He has.
Again and again.

Tom Job said this about living fearful of what is to come in life: 
The plan that God is working out in your life is that He is making you more like Jesus. He is putting you through the exact circumstances that He knows will mold your soul into what makes you like Jesus. Until His plan is accomplished, you are invulnerable.

As a follower of Christ, He has made me holy.
Holy means to be different or set apart.
If I let my emotions make me anxious or fearful of the future, I am not trusting that God has control.
I am not trusting that He is making me more like Jesus through my circumstances.
When I think of it in those terms, how could I ever be anything but joyful?!
He is making me like Christ!!
He is molding me to be like my Savior!

Because of what I know about Jesus, I should never be anxious, worried, frustrated, or find myself complaining again.

Paul, had every reason in life to be miserable, but he sat in a jail cell singing praises to God.
I have every reason to be happy, but I am often miserable.
I need an attitude change.

Turns out that everything Saul knew for certain, was a lie. Everything he felt for certain was untrue.
Then he met Jesus and everything changed.
Then he became Paul and what he knew above all else was that his Savior loved him.
And that was all he needed to know in order to live a life of joy.

I resolve to believe that God is right.
I resolve to live my life knowing that all I have doesn't actually belong to me. I don't even belong to me!
I will not be afraid, or anxious, or worried, or frustrated, or pissed off, because Christ claimed me and I gave my life to Him.
Since He posses my life, I have nothing to lose.
That is what I know.
And if I know I have nothing to lose, then my attitude will reflect only my security in Christ. 
Like Paul, I will live a life of joy in all circumstances.

The Father loves me.
And that's all I need to know.

Whatever happens, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the Gospel of Christ.
Philippians 1:27

Tuesday, March 4, 2014


"Don't give me no rules. All I got is rules!" -Johnny Cash, I Walk the Line

Apparently, someone forgot to give me the official rule book.
I never got to write my name on the inside cover or inhale that smell of fresh ink on crisp pages.
I wasn't there the day the other girls received the Rules of Womanhood.
I must have been outside climbing a tree.
So I guess the rules don't apply to me.

In chapter one they must have talked about food.
How to convince yourself you aren't hungry, excuse me, I mean, how to control your appetite.
How to breath deeply and be full until dinner.
How to say "no bread. no cheese, no meat" when ordering a burger.
I must have been baking a cookie.
So I guess the rules don't apply to me.

Chapter two was obviously about boys.
How to bat your eyes, touch their arms then linger, giggle when, especially when, you didn't get their jokes.
They learned, without me, that to be able to talk sports was brash, that fixing your own car made me hard not soft, that wit and wisdom were not as valuable as lipstick and sweet perfume.
I must have been playing kickball in the backyard.
So I guess the rules don't apply to me.

Somewhere in the rule book they even discussed color.
"It's so nice that you can have these purple walls and colorful pillows while you are single!" said an owner of this rule book to me. "Since when you're married they will have to be neutrals"
And she adjusted the pearls that circled her neck. That choked her.
I was probably barefoot, in my studio, incense glowing, music flowing, paint dripping from my brush to my hand, to my chest, to my thighs, to my feet.
So I guess the rules don't apply to me.

If I had possessed said treasured manuscript, I would have found dating guidelines.
I would have known that no real relationship decisions could be made up til he had "put a ring on it", that I had the freedom to live anywhere in the world, except where he lived since he in fact had not put a ring on it yet, and that I would, or at least should, be able to answer the question, "Is he the one?" at any given moment. At every given moment.
But I was probably playing poker and drinking beer with the man that swept me off my feet and is carrying me away.
So I guess the rules don't apply to me.

And when they all watched chick flicks and painted nails on Saturday night,
I was in the square drinking margaritas, listening to live Jazz music.
And when they were memorizing these precious, my precious, rules, making no mistakes, polishing their pearls,
I was out in the world, I was getting dirty, I was messing up hugely, I was giving my life away, I was breaking free.

Maybe I was there.
The day they handed out the rules.
Maybe I just said no.

Monday, March 3, 2014

What I've learned over a Quarter of Century

Today, I am 25. Here are things I have found to be worthwhile during my so-far fabulous life:

Birthday girls don't have to get out of bed till noon & they definitely don't have to wear pants.
Forgive. Especially when you don't want to. Especially when you have to forgive yourself.
Wait on true love, do not settle. What you are looking for exists.
Family is the most confusing, maddening, frustrating, stressful, wonderful, loving, happy, thing in life.
Spend time around the people who inspire you.
Turn off the TV, pick up a book.
Jump on trampolines in the early hours of the morning.
Buy a house with a front porch & live out there.
Wake up early & spend time alone with Jesus (add coffee).
And don't say you have no regrets, have regrets. Learn from them. Don't repeat them.
Be brave. Say no. Move on. Do not cave under pressure. Have the guts to find new friends.
Spend money on experiences instead of possessions.
Don't be guarded. Don't have "walls". Expose that heart and love deeply.
Sing loud no matter how you sound (everyone sounds great in the shower).
Learn to be alone & enjoy it.
Really study while you are in school. Really learn.
Keep a journal.
Have compassion. So much compassion.
Be a servant, give your life away to people that are less fortunate than you. To the one's who can never repay you.
Be friends with the girl who plays with chalk, pogo's up and down the street, & has dead hamsters in her closet.
Remember: people are not paying as much attention to you as they think you are.
Say "I love you" first.
Take pictures. Real ones, not on your smart phone.
Climb mountains.
Spend time with your grandparents. Even if (especially if) they are crazy.
Have the cake.
Write letters.
Spend a summer at YL camp. It will change everything.
Let yourself be loved. By Christ, by others, by yourself.
Do not believe the lies that you are unlovable, not good enough, unworthy.
Turn off the AC in the summer & throw open the windows.
Don't risk skin cancer by laying in the tanning bed.
Don't text & drive.
Learn to cook.
Play outside.
Nurture your relationship with Christ.
Read great stories.
Write great stories.
Support the dreams of the people you love.
Leave the sarcasm behind.
Put blueberries in your pancakes.
Move past your past.
Take advantage of Sonic happy hour as much as possible.
Save your $$
Pay your bills.
Watch Tangled & eat popcorn with M&M's on a bad day.
Be really sad when you feel it, & be extremely happy when you feel it.
Be friends with everyone.
Put your phone away when you are spending quality time with the people you love.
Have champagne on  New Years.
Play lots of corn hole.
Leave the judgement to God.
Dance in the rain.
Always go sledding.
Enjoy every stage of life.

The world will tell you to get money, spend money, climb the ladder of success, leave others in the dust, win at all costs, fame is everything, looks are most important, be on top, stay on top, drink & smoke & have sex as much as you can.
I tell you, Love God, Love others.
It has worked well for me the past 25 years!

Tuesday, November 12, 2013


My person.
My best friend.
The 81 year old version of myself.
My shopping companion.
My stylist.
My card shark.
Her larger than life smile & exploding laughter.
The back rubs & hand holding & playing with my hair.
7 o'clock dates for Wheel of Fortune & Jeopardy..

If this is the end of her life on Earth,
if this is how she extinguishes,
if it is this month that she takes her last breath,
if yesterday was the last time I hear her say she loves me,
then I am ok.

I spent 24 years loving her well & being loved well by her.
24 years of cooking & laughing & shopping & boy talking & card playing & reading People magazine.
I love this lady more than anyone else & I will miss her if this is her time.
But I know who holds her life & mine, & His timing is what I trust more than anything.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Verse for a YL leader

Even though I am free of the demands and expectations of everyone, I have voluntarily become a servant to any and all in order to reach a wide range of people: religious, nonreligious, meticulous moralists, loose-living immoralists, the defeated, the demoralized—whoever. I didn’t take on their way of life. I kept my bearings in Christ—but I entered their world and tried to experience things from their point of view. I’ve become just about every sort of servant there is in my attempts to lead those I meet into a God-saved life. I did all this because of the Message. I didn’t just want to talk about it; I wanted to be in on it! 1 Corinthians 9:19-23

Saturday, September 21, 2013

Running a Marathon

When we were sophomores in college, my friend Holly & I decided we were going to become runners.
So we started going running a couple afternoons a week. 
Luckily, our legs are about the same length & we had both been high school athletes, so while we were currently not in the best of shape, we could easily keep pace with one another.
A couple minutes of running the straights & walking the hills turned into being able to run the mile loop around the intramural fields.
We played it safe at a mile for a while then took on the seemingly endless hill we had been avoiding.
After we conquered the hill we set out for 2 miles.
I will never forget the day we ran 2 miles.
Staring at our watches for the last half mile, watching the pavement slowly but surely disappear beneath our heavy feet, & panting so loud we could hear ourselves over our iPods.
We hadn't been smart enough to plan the route ahead of time so we ended up running the last fourth up a lengthy hill.
But we made it! 
I think we felt extra good about ourselves because a third friend had gone with us that particular day & had dropped out halfway through.

Sophomore year was a long time ago. 
Holly & I don't live in the same city anymore.
But I do still run. 
2 miles isn't scary anymore. 
I'm a 3 to 5 mile person now, but it always depends on the weather & the time of day & how my bad knee is feeling.
And I don't do sprints.
I've never been someone that does things fast.
Even as a high school swimmer, I was distance.
After all, they say it's all about the journey right?

The title of this post is probably a little misleading.
I am NOT running a marathon.
Not literally anyway.
I have been thinking about  the analogy of life being a marathon a lot lately though.
It can't be lived as a sprint. It just can't.
Sometimes it is incredibly tempting, but to sprint through life would be to miss out on life.
Even during the bad times when we want to lower our head, put a shoulder to the wind, & get through without feeling much, it's better to keep the pace.

There is a little tiny hill in part of my route that is more of a challenge than some of the big ones.
I think it's because it is sharp & on a turn & in the middle of the route, so no promise of "the end" once I reach the top.
I often tell myself that if I can make it up that hill, then I can make it through every other part. 
I take deeper breaths & I really concentrate on my feet hitting the asphalt. 
I feel my muscles in my legs tighten & my heartbeat speed up.
Then it's over & my body relaxes just a little.

That's how I see life. 
It I sprinted through even the toughest emotions, then I am not really engaged in life.
And I want to be fully engaged. 
I want to soak up every drop of life that I can. 
I want to run this marathon to the best of my ability. 

It's funny because what that means for me, a 24 year old with a degree from a private University, is spending the majority of my time with high school people. ( I don't call them kids cause they would find that offensive!)
It's true!
I find that I am most engaged in life when I am living a life that expresses the love of Jesus to others. 
And my God is a God of laughter & joy.
He is a God that wants me to enjoy the good things he put on this earth & to relish in the happy times.
So here I am, living a life that most of the rest of the world will never understand, so that one day I can say, as the apostle Paul did, "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race...I was fully engaged in the marathon of life!"


Here's some recent shots from my "race"